Episode 170: The Most Effective Strategies for Navigating Toddler Sleep When Welcoming a New Baby with Maisie Ruttan
Hey Mamas!
In this episode of "Entering Motherhood," host Sarah Marie Bilger and guest Maisie Ruttan, a twin mom and former nurse turned sleep consultant, discuss the challenges of toddler sleep, especially in the context of welcoming a new child into the family. Maisie shares her journey from nursing to sleep consulting after her own experience with twins and IVF. She emphasizes the normalcy of sleep issues in toddlers and preschoolers and the importance of a gentle, nurturing approach to help children sleep more independently. Maisie offers insights into common sleep problems, underlying causes, and the importance of not rushing changes in sleep routines. She also touches on the societal pressures of early bedtimes and the potential need for naps in children's schedules. The conversation provides valuable tips for parents navigating sleep with multiple children and underscores the importance of understanding each child's unique sleep needs.
Meet Maisie
Maisie's journey into the world of sleep consulting began with her own experience as a nurse and a new mother to twins. The transition from working in healthcare to becoming a full-time mom led her down a path of entrepreneurship, ultimately finding her passion in helping families improve their children's sleep. Unlike the common perception that sleep consultants only deal with babies, Maisie's approach is unique as she focuses on a gentle, nurturing method for older children, integrating a parenting perspective into her practice.
The Quest for Sleep
As a fellow mom with kids aged two and four, I was particularly intrigued by Maisie's twin experience. She shared that her six-year-old boys were conceived through IVF after a challenging journey to pregnancy. The topic of twins naturally segued into the complexities of managing sleep for multiple children, especially when introducing a new baby into the family dynamic.
The Sleep Struggle is Real
Maisie highlighted that it's incredibly normal for toddlers and preschoolers to need ongoing support with sleep. The key motivator for many of her clients is the desire to address sleep issues before the arrival of a new sibling. She empathizes with the struggle, acknowledging that parents are often expected to manage without the extended family support that was once commonplace.
Common Bedtime Challenges
When it comes to bedtime, Maisie reassures us that prolonged bedtimes and a myriad of excuses from our little ones are normal. She advises parents to look beyond the behavior and understand the underlying reasons, whether it's a child not being tired enough, a poorly spaced nap, or a need for more connection. Maisie encourages a detective-like approach to uncover the multiple factors that may be affecting a child's ability to be able to settle down at night.
How Much Sleep Do Kids Need?
One of the most common questions Maisie encounters is about the amount of sleep children need. She clarifies that while it varies with age, 10-11 hours is typical, and this can change when naps are dropped. She warns against dropping naps too soon, as it can lead to crankiness and other issues down the line.
The Journey to Better Sleep
Maisie emphasizes the importance of starting early when addressing sleep challenges, especially during pregnancy. She believes in a slow and gentle approach, which feels more natural for children and is ultimately better for their adjustment to changes.
Maisie's Personal Motivation
Reflecting on her own entry into motherhood six years ago, Maisie shares how her twin pregnancy and the early end to her nursing career due to physical strain led her to sleep consulting. The overwhelming attention to her pregnancy and the desire to prepare for her babies' arrival sparked her interest in creating a better sleep environment for her family and others.
Final Thoughts for New Mothers
Maisie offers heartfelt advice to new mothers: stay curious, seek help when needed, and don't rush changes if your child's sleep is going well. She invites anyone seeking guidance to reach out to her for support. Maisie not only shed light on the complexities of toddler sleep but also provided valuable insights and practical tips for parents navigating this challenging stage. Her expertise and personal experience make her an invaluable resource for families striving for better sleep and stronger connections.
If you're a parent struggling with your child's sleep or simply looking for more information, I encourage you to listen to the full episode with Maisie. Her wisdom and guidance just might be the key to a more peaceful night for you and your little ones.
Connect more with Maisie Ruttan:
Website: www.maisieruttan.com
Instagram: maisie.ruttan
Facebook: sleepandsanity
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