Episode 194: The Best Support Strategies for New Moms with Mariela De Santiago
Hey Mamas!
In this episode of the Entering Motherhood podcast, host Sarah Marie talks with Mariela De Santiago, creator of the "New Mom Talk" podcast and Carlsbad Moms event planner. They discuss the multifaceted challenges of new motherhood, including postpartum struggles, the importance of seeking help, and the use of apps like "The Wonder Weeks" for understanding baby development. Mariela emphasizes the value of community support, self-care, and clear communication with partners. She also shares practical advice on setting boundaries and finding compromises to navigate the early stages of parenting. The episode offers heartfelt insights and practical tips for new moms.
Motherhood is a beautiful, transformative journey—but let’s be real: it comes with its share of daily challenges. From juggling tasks like finding the right parking spot to figuring out where to turn for advice, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry, you’re not alone. Sarah Marie from Entering Motherhood and guest Meriela share practical insights and relatable advice to help moms navigate this exciting yet complex chapter of life.
Everyday tasks, like getting the car seat in and out or managing an on-the-go diaper change, can feel like monumental challenges. Mariela emphasizes that a little planning ahead can go a long way. Choosing parking spots with easy access to the car seat, keeping a stocked diaper bag in the car, and giving yourself extra time for errands can help you feel more in control of your day. These small adjustments add up, making your busy schedule a little less stressful.
Motherhood doesn’t have to be a solo journey, and Mariela highlights the magic of community. Connecting with other moms who “get it” can make all the difference. Whether it’s joining local mom groups, attending events, or even creating your own meetup, there’s comfort in sharing experiences with people on a similar path. For those without an immediate support system, apps like Peanut, Facebook groups, or online forums can be fantastic tools to meet like-minded moms. Hosting playdates or casual coffee meetups is a great way to build connections while giving the kids a chance to play.
Reflecting on her journey, Mariela shares how she wishes she’d known about postpartum doulas sooner. Having the right support in the early days of parenthood can make a world of difference. Whether it’s hiring a doula, communicating specific needs to family and friends, or simply being open to accepting help, asking for support doesn’t make you less independent—it’s a reminder that we all need a little help sometimes.
Setting boundaries as a new parent is essential, and Mariela encourages moms to put their family’s needs first. Learning to say no to invitations or requests that conflict with your routines can help you maintain balance and keep life manageable. At the same time, she reminds moms of the importance of finding compromises. Open communication with your partner can help you manage social commitments, juggle responsibilities, and stay connected with family and friends without stretching yourself too thin.
For moms in the thick of sleepless nights or challenging phases, Mariela offers a gentle reminder: it’s all temporary. Parenting is a journey made up of constantly evolving stages. While some moments feel overwhelming, they’re often just a phase. Embracing change, staying patient, and seeking support from others who’ve been through similar experiences can make these transitions feel more manageable.
Mariela also emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care and maintaining open communication with your partner. Taking care of yourself, whether through a quick walk, a favorite hobby, or just a moment of quiet, is vital for maintaining balance. Talking with your partner about your needs and dividing responsibilities fairly ensures that both parents contribute to a healthy family dynamic.
Finally, Mariela offers her podcast, Mama Wears Athleisure, as a valuable resource for moms looking for advice and inspiration. Listening to podcasts, engaging with parenting blogs, and attending workshops or local events can provide both practical tips and a sense of community.
Motherhood is more than just a role—it’s a journey of growth, self-discovery, and connection. Mariela encourages moms to celebrate their evolving identities, embrace the changes, and lean into the support of others who understand. Building your own village and focusing on the positive aspects of motherhood can make this journey not only manageable but truly rewarding. Remember: you’re doing an amazing job, and you’ve got this!
Connect more with Mariela DeSantiago:
Website: mamawearsathleisure.com
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQZH_AmrVDn7cdGHROIQH6Q
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariela-de-santiago-57817a19/
Instagram: @MamaWearsAthleisure & @CarlsbadMomWalks
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