Episode 180: From Fears about Childbirth to Feelings of Empowerment with Suzzie Vehrs
Hey Mamas!
In this episode of Entering Motherhood, Sarah Marie converses with Suzzie Vehrs, a doula and childbirth educator. Suzzie shares her contrasting birthing experiences: an emergency cesarean section for her first daughter and an empowering natural birth for her second. The discussion emphasizes the importance of informed consent, effective communication with healthcare providers, and the supportive role of doulas. Suzzie highlights the significance of creating a birth plan, advocating for oneself, and preparing mentally and emotionally for labor. The episode underscores the transformative journey of motherhood and the empowerment that comes from being well-informed and supported.
The Emotional Roller Coaster of Birth: From Fear to Empowerment
Suzzie's First Birth: Overcoming Fear and Isolation
Suzzie's first birth was marked by fear and uncertainty, culminating in an emergency cesarean section. Despite her attempts to embrace natural birthing methods, the lack of support and her fears significantly impacted her experience. She felt isolated and unprepared for the emotional challenges of childbirth.
Acknowledge Your Emotions: It's essential to recognize and address any fears or anxieties you may have about childbirth. Ignoring these feelings can lead to a more stressful experience.
Seek Support: Joining a moms' group or connecting with a midwife or doula can provide the emotional and informational support needed to navigate childbirth.
Suzzie's Second Birth: Embracing Natural Birth with Confidence
In contrast, Suzzie's second birth was a transformative experience. With the support of a student midwife and a better understanding of the birthing process, she embraced a natural birth with confidence and joy.
Educate Yourself: Understanding the birthing process and your options can empower you to make informed decisions.
Build a Support System: Having a consistent support person, like a doula, can provide reassurance and advocacy throughout the process.
Effective Communication with Healthcare Providers
Both Suzzie and the Sarah Marie emphasize the importance of clear communication with healthcare providers. The words and attitudes of medical staff can significantly influence a laboring woman's experience.
Create a Birth Plan: A written birth plan discussed with providers during prenatal visits ensures that your preferences and concerns are documented and acknowledged.
Advocate for Yourself: Don't hesitate to ask questions and assert your needs. Effective communication can help you feel more empowered and informed.
The Role of Doulas in Facilitating Communication
Doulas play a crucial role in facilitating communication between mothers and their healthcare teams. They can help ensure that your preferences are respected and that you feel supported throughout the birthing process.
Consider Hiring a Doula: A doula can provide continuous support, helping you navigate the complexities of labor with greater confidence.
Joint Decision-Making: Work with your healthcare team to make decisions that align with your values and preferences.
Preparation and Mindset: Shaping the Birthing Experience
Mental Tools for Managing Anxiety
Preparation and mindset play crucial roles in shaping the birthing experience. Mental tools, such as fear-clearing techniques and visualization, can help mothers manage anxiety and stay focused during labor.
Practice Visualization: Visualizing a positive birthing experience can help reduce anxiety and build confidence.
Use Fear-Clearing Techniques: Techniques such as deep breathing and mindfulness can help you stay calm and focused.
The Power of Self-Advocacy
Suzzie emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy and recognizing one's worth in the birthing process. This journey of self-discovery often leads to a deeper understanding of your unique values and desires.
Embrace Your Individuality: Recognize that YOU are the expert of your own body and experiences.
Expect the Care You Deserve: Assert your needs and seek the support you require to feel safe and informed during labor.
The Importance of a Consistent Support Person
Labor can be unpredictable, and the experiences women have can vary based on the medical staff present. Having a consistent support person, like a doula, can provide reassurance and advocacy throughout the entire birthing process.
Prepare for the Unexpected: Discuss potential scenarios with your healthcare provider during prenatal appointments.
Ensure Continuity of Care: A consistent support person can help you feel more secure and supported, especially in high-stress situations.
Mindfulness and Presence During Labor
Suzzie shares the value of mindfulness and presence during labor. Taking moments to pause, appreciate the experience, and ground oneself can help mothers reconnect with their bodies and the incredible journey they are undertaking.
Practice Gratitude: Focusing on the positive aspects of the experience can help you stay grounded and present.
Stay Mindful: Mindfulness practices can help you manage stress and stay connected to your body during labor.
Embracing the Journey of Motherhood
This episode of Entering Motherhood serves as a powerful reminder of the strength and resilience inherent in the birthing experience. Suzzie Vehrs' insights as a doula and her personal journey highlight the importance of informed consent, communication, and self-advocacy in creating a positive and empowering experience for mothers. By embracing their unique journeys, recognizing their worth, and seeking the support they need, expectant mothers can navigate the challenges of childbirth and embrace the beauty of bringing a new life into the world.
Final Words of Encouragement:
Prepare Mentally and Emotionally: Equip yourself with the knowledge and tools needed to navigate childbirth with confidence.
Seek Support: Build a support system that includes healthcare providers, doulas, and loved ones who can provide reassurance and advocacy.
Embrace Your Journey: Recognize your strength and resilience, and approach childbirth with a positive and empowered mindset.
By following these insights and recommendations, expectant mothers can create a more positive and fulfilling birthing experience, paving the way for a joyful transition into motherhood.
Connect more with Suzzie Vehrs:
Courses: Birth Class
Instagram: shebirthsbravely
Quiz: What Does Your Birth Plan Say About Your Personality Quiz
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